A house for men building such an exciting future that there's no room for alcohol.
WHAT IS THOM?
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THOM is for men who have stepped away from alcohol and are ready to step up.
No more drifting. No more surface-level friendships.
This is a room of men building stronger bodies, sharper minds, better careers and better lives.
High standards. Real connection. Real-world experiences.
WHO THOM IS FOR?
THOM is for men who have stepped away from alcohol and are ready to build something bigger.
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You'll fit here if you want to:
Build real friendships with like-minded men across the UK
Raise your standards physically, mentally and professionally
Upgrade your circle and expand your network
Get accountability, direction and momentum every week
Take on challenges, trips & experiences with a solid group around you
Explore new ideas, new projects and new ways of living
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THOM is for men who have left alcohol behind or are ready to do so, and want to build what comes next
HOUSE MATE
Every man who joins THOM begins with a focused twelve-week experience designed to help him reconnect with who he is, define his direction and begin building momentum alongside other like-minded men.
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Step 1: Join THOM as a Housemate
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Your journey begins by joining THOM and stepping into the House.
When you join, you receive your THOM welcome pack and unlock access to the private members area. Inside the members area you can watch the welcome videos, understand how the community works and prepare for the journey ahead.
You will also receive a private 60 minute, 1:1 Direction Session with Matt Pink over zoom.
This session is designed to help you reflect on where you are in life and begin thinking clearly about the direction you want the next chapter of your life to take.
Once you have joined, you will be placed into the next intake of Your New Direction, the six week experience that begins your journey inside THOM.
Step 2: Your New Direction
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Your New Direction is a six-week experience designed for ambitious men who have stepped away from alcohol and are ready to build something bigger with their lives.
You will join a small cohort of like-minded men and meet weekly for powerful conversations hosted by Matt Pink.
All Your New Direction sessions take place on Thursday evenings at 7pm (UK time) so members move through the experience together as a cohort.
Together you will explore identity, passion, purpose and direction while beginning to build real momentum for the next chapter of your life.
Enter the House
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After completing Your New Direction, you begin integrating into the wider THOM community.
For the next six weeks you take part in the THOM weekly rhythm alongside other members of the House. This is where relationships deepen and the energy of the community really comes to life.
After completing the initial twelve-week journey, members continue inside THOM as THOM Members.
HOUSE MEMBERSHIP
After completing the twelve-week journey, members continue inside the community as a THOM Member.
This is where the long-term rhythm of the House begins.
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The Weekly Rhythm
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At the heart of THOM is the weekly rhythm. Members meet live on Zoom for structured conversations designed to help men stay connected, accountable and moving forward.
All weekly rhythm calls take place on Monday evenings at 7pm (UK time) so members can easily build the rhythm into their week.
The rhythm includes:
House Calls for connection and conversation
Performance Calls focused on fitness and running
Direction sessions focused on personal goals and ambition
Enterprise sessions for networking and opportunities
Hosted Events
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Several times each year members meet in person at THOM hosted events around the UK.
These events strengthen the community and turn online connections into real friendships.
THOM Experiences
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Throughout the year members also have access to THOM experiences and trips.
These are designed to push men outside their comfort zones, strengthen the community and create unforgettable shared moments.
WHO IS THOM FOR
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THOM is designed for a specific kind of man.
Men who have stepped away from alcohol and are ready to build something bigger with their lives.
Men who want to surround themselves with others who are pushing forward.
THOM is for men who want real connection, ambition, growth and a future that genuinely excites them.
WHAT YOU GET WITH MEMBERSHIP
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Membership unlocks:Â
Weekly Monday night THOM calls (live on Zoom)
Full access to call recordings
Community emails and updates
The private THOM WhatsApp group
Access to quarterly meet-ups across the UK
Priority access to THOM trips and experiences
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This is your room. Your standards. Your people.
MEMBERSHIP FEE
Memberships Now Open
THOM is intentionally small, high-quality, and built around real connection, high standards, and experiences that move you forward.
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THE WEEKLY RHYTHM
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Life inside THOM is built around a simple but powerful weekly rhythm.
Every Monday at 7pm, the House comes together. Each week carries a different focus, designed to create balance across connection, ambition, growth and opportunity.
It’s this rhythm that keeps the energy high, the standards elevated and the momentum building week after week.
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House Call
The heartbeat of the House. This is where relationships are built. Open conversation, shared experiences and genuine connection sit at the centre of it all. It’s relaxed, honest and often a lot of fun, but always grounded in accountability and forward movement. This is where you find your people.
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Performance Call
Your physical standard, raised. Led by THOM member Derek Meaney, a lifelong runner and sub 3-hour marathon athlete, these sessions focus on building strength, discipline and consistency. Whether you’re just getting started or pushing for your next level, this is about showing up, raising your standards and doing the work.
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Direction Call
Clarity, focus and intent. This is where you step out of the noise and focus on what really matters. Through structured conversation and reflection, you’ll sharpen your direction, make better decisions and move forward with purpose. This is where your future starts to take shape.
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Enterprise Call
Where opportunity is created. Focused on business, career and growth, these sessions bring together ambitious men looking to build, expand and explore what’s next. Ideas are shared, connections are made and doors begin to open.
JOIN THE MAYÂ THOMÂ COHORT
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A new group of driven men begins Your New Direction, the six-week experience that starts the THOM journey.
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Starting 7 May 2026
Doors close 4 May at 9pm UK
Did you know:
The average THOM member was spending around ÂŁ540 per month on alcohol and nights out.
Many men simply redirect that money into themselves.
WELCOME PACK
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Every new member receives a physical welcome pack when they join.
A small but meaningful reminder that you're in the House now.
MEET THE TEAM
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We're a small, dedicated team committed to making THOM a transformative experience for every member.
Matt Pink
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Over the last few years, I've built communities, hosted events, and worked with thousands of people who want to change their relationship with alcohol and step into a stronger future. What I've seen time and time again is that the real challenge isn't quitting. It's what happens next.
THOM was created for that next chapter. A house for men who have stepped away from alcohol and want to build a bigger life with the right people around them. High-quality connection, real momentum, and experiences that sharpen you physically, mentally and professionally.
Tom Barker
I started my alcohol-free journey in May 2022, and it marked the beginning of a steady rebuild. Since then, I've shaped my life around clarity, discipline and movement. Most days you'll find me training hard, reading fiction, or writing poetry. I'm big on standards, self-respect, and doing what you said you'd do.
I found this community in 2024 and quickly realised what I'd been missing: real connection with men on the same path. THOM grew from that foundation, and I now lead operations to keep the House running smoothly, protect the culture, and build the systems that allow THOM to scale without losing what makes it special.
Paul Nightingale
Derek Meaney
I'm a UESCA-qualified running coach with a focus on performance, consistency and mindset. My approach is backed by a Certificate in Sports Psychology and a Diploma in Positive Psychology. As a runner myself, I've hit personal bests of 17:40 (5K), 38:11 (10K), 1:24 (half marathon) and 2:53 (marathon). I love helping men build confidence through training, stay accountable to the process, and genuinely enjoy the journey while getting faster and stronger.
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FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
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Everything you need to know about THOM membership.
Do I need to be sober to join THOM?
What if I can't make the Monday call?
Are the quarterly meet-ups included?
Are the trips included?
Is THOM expensive?
Is THOM UK only?
Can I join any time?
MEMBER STORIES
Paul
What can I say about this group, apart from that everything is so positive! I joined the group 4 months ago and was nervous and apprehensive about the first call, as I didn’t know what to expect. What I got was a great welcome, positive feelings, talks, fun, banter and a lot of laughs! In fact, the laughing is genuinely one of the things that we all look forward to!
Everybody is on a different journey with the same outcome and goal in mind of staying sober and embracing sobriety. Men, that I now call my friends, being honest with no judgement, advice, support and a general all-around feeling of happiness and positive spirit. No matter what the challenge, everyone listens.
A great group of guys who have been nothing short of helpful and inspiring. It is great to find a group of like-minded people with a common goal.
Simon
Joining this group is probably one of the best decisions I have ever made.
Giving up alcohol can be a long and difficult journey, and also a very lonely one. In the beginning, it was the support and friendship from lads all sharing the same goal and offering a genuine understanding of how difficult this process can actually be, which has helped me immensely.
When you’re in a group like this with lads of different ages and very different backgrounds, you soon find out you all share very similar stories and have a lot more in common than you actually think. It’s reassuring to know you’re not alone on this journey. The regular meet ups have been amazing and through them I have forged many new genuine friendships.If you want to remove alcohol out  of your life this space  is for you.
Tim
Being part of this men’s group has genuinely changed my life. When I joined, I was struggling with my relationship with alcohol and didn’t know how to break the cycle. What I found was a space with no judgment — just honest conversations, real support, and accountability from men who truly understand.
With the support of the group, I’ve been able to step away from alcohol and feel healthier, clearer, and more in control of my life than I have in years. I’m incredibly grateful to be part of it, and I’d recommend it to any man who wants to make a positive change.
Will
As all my friends love to drink, I wanted to find a community of people who were doing the same thing that could hold me accountable. Since I started working with Matt, I have got myself surrounded by an awesome group of like minded people within his group and it has quickly opened up doors for me that I never would have thought were possible beforehand.
This isn’t just a group to help you stop drinking, but a group of people who want to see each other succeed and help each other get there.
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