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A house for men building such an exciting future that there's no room for alcohol.

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WHAT IS THOM?

 THOM is a private members’ house for men who have stepped away from alcohol and are ready to build what comes next.

It’s a community of men building better lives together by committing to high standards, finding genuine connection, and engaging in real-world experiences.

It’s a place designed to sharpen minds, build strength, and find purpose.

WHO IS THOM FOR?

THOM is for men who have stepped away from alcohol and are ready to build something bigger.

 

You'll fit here if you want to:

Build real friendships with like-minded men across the UK

Raise your standards physically, mentally and professionally

Upgrade your circle and expand your network

Get accountability, direction and momentum every week

Take on challenges, trips & experiences with a solid group around you

Explore new ideas, new projects and new ways of living

 

THOM is for men who have left alcohol behind or are ready to do so, and want to build what comes next

HOW IT WORKS

From day one, you step inside the House and begin building what’s next.

Three simple steps. One clear direction.

01 - Join THOM 

 

Your journey starts the moment you step inside.

You’ll receive your Welcome Pack, unlock access to the private members area and step straight into the group of men already moving forward.

This is where you step into the standard and begin setting your direction.

You’ll also have a private 1:1 Direction Session with Matt Pink, giving you immediate clarity and sharpening your thinking for what comes next.

 

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02 - Your Motive

 

Your Motive is where everything begins.

Over six weeks on Thursday evenings, you move alongside a small group of men through focused weekly conversations designed to build clarity, identity and momentum.

At the same time, you’re stepping into the rhythm of the House, joining calls, connecting with members and raising your standard.

This is where everything sharpens.

 

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03 - The House

 

You settle into the rhythm of the House.

Weekly calls become part of your life.
Relationships deepen.
Momentum builds.

This is where you find your people, raise your standards and build what’s next.

 

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INSIDE THE HOUSE

The rhythm becomes part of your life.

The people. The gatherings. The experiences.

This is where it all comes together. 

The Weekly Rhythm

 

Every Monday at 7pm, the House comes together.

This is where your week resets.

Sharpen your focus.

Move forward.

No matter what’s happening outside.

Over time, this rhythm becomes your anchor.

Standards rise. Momentum builds.

House Calls for connection

Performance Calls to raise your level

Direction Calls to sharpen your focus

Enterprise Calls to create opportunity

Guest Speakers to expand your thinking

SEE THE RHYTHM
House Gatherings

 

Real connection. In real life.

Throughout the year, the House comes together across the UK.

These aren’t just meet-ups.

They’re where conversations go deeper.

Where bonds are built.

Where everything becomes real.

You meet the men you speak to each week.

You share experiences.

You build friendships.

Some are relaxed.

Some are built around challenge.

All of them matter.

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THOM Experiences

 

This is where things shift.

Once a year, members step into a flagship THOM experience.

Designed to challenge you.

Stretch you.

And bring the House together at a different level.

You step out of your normal environment and into something bigger.

With the right men around you,
everything sharpens.

These are the moments that stay with you.

The ones that change how you see yourself and what you do next.

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THE WEEKLY RHYTHM

 

Life inside THOM is built around a simple but powerful weekly rhythm.

Every Monday at 7pm, the House comes together. Each week carries a different focus, designed to create balance across connection, ambition, growth and opportunity.

It’s this rhythm that keeps the energy high, the standards elevated and the momentum building week after week.

 

House Call

The heartbeat of the House.

This is where relationships are built and you find your people. Open, honest conversation sits at the centre, alongside shared experiences and genuine connection.

It’s relaxed and often a lot of fun, but always grounded in accountability and forward movement.

 

Performance Call

Your physical standard, raised.

Built around running, with a focus on consistency, discipline and progression, while also supporting your overall fitness and physical development.

Led by THOM member Derek Meaney, a sub-3 hour marathon runner, these sessions bring real experience and a high-performance standard into the House.

 

Direction Call

Clarity, focus and intent.

This is where you step out of the noise and lock in on what really matters. Through structured conversation and reflection, you’ll sharpen your thinking and make better decisions.

You move forward with purpose, building real direction and momentum in your life.

 

Enterprise Call

Where opportunity is created.

Focused on business, career and growth, these sessions bring together ambitious men looking to build, expand and explore what’s next.

Ideas are shared, connections are made and doors begin to open.

 

Guest Speaker

Fresh perspective from outside the House.

Each quarter, carefully selected guests step in to share experience, challenge your thinking and expand what you see as possible.

Every session is designed to raise your level and support your journey inside THOM.

 

A NOTE FROM THE FOUNDER

 

 

I created THOM for men like me

Men who know they’re capable of more

Who want to evolve, raise their standards and build

something meaningful with their lives

This isn’t a support group

And it’s not designed to help you stop drinking

THOM is for men who are ready to build a life so strong,

so focused and so exciting

that alcohol no longer fits into it

This is about direction

Momentum

And becoming the man you know you can be

— Matt 

WHAT YOU GET WITH MEMBERSHIP

 

Membership unlocks: 

Weekly Monday night THOM calls (live on Zoom)

Full access to the Members Hub for all call recordings + updates

A 60-Day guided experience 

The private THOM WhatsApp group

Access to House Gatherings across the UK

Access to THOM experiences

 

This is your room. Your standards. Your people.

MEMBERSHIP FEE

 

Memberships Open June 1st 2026

 

THOM is intentionally small, high-quality, and built around real connection, high standards, and experiences that move you forward.

 

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QUICK NOTE

 

THOM is not a support group

It’s not designed for men who are still battling with alcohol
or trying to figure out how to stop

THOM is for men who have stepped away 
or are ready to 
and want to build what comes next

JOIN THE NEXT COHORT

 

In June, a new group of driven men will step into the House - don’t miss out if you want to be one of them.

 

Your first 60 days includes Your Motive, time inside the House, a private 1:1 Direction Session, and your THOM welcome pack.

 

You’ll get closer to what you want, build momentum and surround yourself with men who are moving forward.

 

Starting Monday 22nd June 2026
Doors close Sunday 21st June at 7pm 

 

Limited places per cohort.

Did you know:

The average THOM member was spending around ÂŁ540 per month on alcohol and nights out.
Many men simply redirect that money into themselves.

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WELCOME PACK

 

Every new member receives a physical welcome pack when they join.

A small but meaningful reminder that you're in the House now.

YOUR INVESTMENT 

 

Join THOM

ÂŁ1,500 one-time House Entry

ÂŁ99 per month thereafter*

*First 2 months free

You are not joining a course.


You are stepping into a private space designed to elevate how you think, how you move, and what you build.

The Value

2 x Months Free Membership ÂŁ198
Your Motive ÂŁ500+
1:1 Direction Session ÂŁ150+
Weekly Rhythm ÂŁ5,200+
Run Coaching ÂŁ300+
Total Value ÂŁ6,198+
Your Investment ÂŁ1,500
Join from June 1st 2026

MEET THE TEAM

 

We're a small, dedicated team committed to making THOM a transformative experience for every member.

Matt Pink

Founder
 
I'm Matt Pink, founder of THOM. I stopped drinking six years ago and it became a turning point in every area of my life. With alcohol out of the way, I rebuilt from a place of clarity, discipline and purpose and discovered just how much potential opens up when you raise your standards.

 

Over the last few years, I've built communities, hosted events, and worked with thousands of people who want to change their relationship with alcohol and step into a stronger future. What I've seen time and time again is that the real challenge isn't quitting. It's what happens next.

THOM was created for that next chapter. A house for men who have stepped away from alcohol and want to build a bigger life with the right people around them. High-quality connection, real momentum, and experiences that sharpen you physically, mentally and professionally.

Tom Barker

Operations Lead
 
I started my alcohol-free journey in May 2022, and it marked the beginning of a steady rebuild. Since then, I’ve reshaped my life around clarity, discipline, movement, and purpose.
 

Most days you’ll find me training in the gym or running around a park, which I balance carefully alongside a busy career and creative pursuits. Being alcohol-free has given me the time and energy to make the most of the things I want to do in life – there’s simply no reason to ever go back to drinking.

I found this community in 2024 and quickly realised what else I’d been missing: real connection with men on the same path as me. THOM grew from that foundation, and I now lead operations to keep the House running smoothly, protect the culture, and build systems that allow THOM to scale without losing what makes it special.

Paul Nightingale

Delivery Lead
 
My alcohol-free journey began in 2020, after lockdown, when I started questioning what alcohol was really adding to my life. After a few long stretches of sobriety, I made the decision to quit for good in October 2023. Since then, life has levelled up fast. I've become a better dad, built stronger habits, and ticked off goals I'd held for years, including running the London Marathon in 2025.
 
I found this community looking for connection and ended up finding something bigger: real friendships, real standards, and real momentum. That experience helped shape THOM, and I now support delivery and structure so the House stays high-quality, consistent, and built to last.

Derek Meaney

Running Champion
 

I'm a UESCA-qualified running coach with a focus on performance, consistency and mindset. My approach is backed by a Certificate in Sports Psychology and a Diploma in Positive Psychology. As a runner myself, I've hit personal bests of 17:40 (5K), 38:11 (10K), 1:24 (half marathon) and 2:53 (marathon). I love helping men build confidence through training, stay accountable to the process, and genuinely enjoy the journey while getting faster and stronger.

Roo Hambly

Community Champion
 
I grew up in the full-throttle drinking culture of the 80s and 90s and fully lived it. After decades of "mid-lane" drinking, I hit my late 40s and started questioning why I kept going back to something that only brought me lethargy and underperformance. Over time, the breaks from alcohol got longer, until I finally chose to leave it behind properly. I found this community to meet like-minded men who get it. Men who want more from life, but still love a laugh along the way. I'm outdoors at heart, so I'm here to help strengthen connection, organise meet-ups, and create real experiences where men connect, challenge themselves, and move forward together.

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

 

Everything you need to know about THOM membership.

MEMBER STORIES

Paul

What can I say about this group, apart from that everything is so positive! I joined the group 4 months ago and was nervous and apprehensive about the first call, as I didn’t know what to expect. What I got was a great welcome, positive feelings, talks, fun, banter and a lot of laughs! In fact, the laughing is genuinely one of the things that we all look forward to!

Everybody is on a different journey with the same outcome and goal in mind of staying sober and embracing sobriety. Men, that I now call my friends, being honest with no judgement, advice, support and a general all-around feeling of happiness and positive spirit. No matter what the challenge, everyone listens.

A great group of guys who have been nothing short of helpful and inspiring. It is great to find a group of like-minded people with a common goal.

Simon

Joining this group is probably one of the best decisions I have ever made.

Giving up alcohol can be a long and difficult journey, and also a very lonely one. In the beginning, it was the support and friendship from lads all sharing the same goal and offering a genuine understanding of how difficult this process can actually be, which has helped me immensely.

When you’re in a group like this with lads of different ages and very different backgrounds, you soon find out you all share very similar stories and have a lot more in common than you actually think. It’s reassuring to know you’re not alone on this journey. The regular meet ups have been amazing and through them I have forged many new genuine friendships.If you want to remove alcohol out  of your life this space  is for you.

Tim

Being part of this men’s group has genuinely changed my life. When I joined, I was struggling with my relationship with alcohol and didn’t know how to break the cycle. What I found was a space with no judgment — just honest conversations, real support, and accountability from men who truly understand.


With the support of the group, I’ve been able to step away from alcohol and feel healthier, clearer, and more in control of my life than I have in years. I’m incredibly grateful to be part of it, and I’d recommend it to any man who wants to make a positive change.

Will

 After a couple of years spent cutting down on drinking, I decided it was time to completely give it up. Around this time I stumbled upon Matt and his work purely by chance and not long after working with him found I had completely stopped thinking about drinking, and started to use my time thinking of new ways to better live my life.


As all my friends love to drink, I wanted to find a community of people who were doing the same thing that could hold me accountable. Since I started working with Matt, I have got myself surrounded by an awesome group of like minded people within his group and it has quickly opened up doors for me that I never would have thought were possible beforehand.

This isn’t just a group to help you stop drinking, but a group of people who want to see each other succeed and help each other get there.

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